Celebration of life information
Celebration of Life Information
Today, many families are looking for a service that focuses on honoring and celebrating the life their loved one lived. For this reason, we often introduce them to the idea of a celebration of life and offer guidance in creating a gathering that is just as unique as the person being remembered.
Working with families to design a personalized celebration is something we consider a privilege. While it can sometimes feel challenging to capture the fullness of someone’s life in a single event, it is also one of the most meaningful and healing experiences we can share with those who are grieving.
Unlike traditional funerals, a celebration of life isn’t tied to strict customs or expectations—it can truly be whatever feels most fitting. That said, it’s important to keep in mind the emotional needs of the family and friends who will attend. Think about who will be present and what might bring them comfort or connection.

From there, you can weave in elements that reflect your loved one’s personality and lifestyle. Maybe it’s live music, a slideshow of favorite memories, or simply gathering over food and conversation. With these touches, the service becomes more than an event—it becomes a heartfelt tribute and a meaningful way to remember a life well lived.
Sarah York opens her beautifully-crafted book, Remembering Well, with the very personal story about how her family chose to pay tribute to her mother. "My mother died in April 1983... She didn't want a funeral. 'Get together and have a party,' she had said when the topic was allowed to come up." However, she was quick to tell readers that the survivors did not honor the request. "We needed the ritual. We needed to say good-bye, but we also needed a ritual that would honor her spirit and would be faithful to her values and beliefs."
When Ms. York acknowledges the position of her family—that they needed not a party but a ritual—she teaches us all something important: the celebration of life events we plan with families should be shaped as much by their own emotional and spiritual needs as their desire to celebrate the life lived.
How to Plan a Celebration of Life
Planning a celebration of life is often a process of asking thoughtful questions and reflecting on the answers together. Take time to sit down with family members—once, or even several times—to explore the ideas and possibilities that emerge from these conversations. These shared reflections often reveal the most meaningful ways to honor your loved one’s memory.
Who will be invited?
Create a guest list to help determine the size, location, and style of the event. Start with the most obvious names and add more as you go.
Where and when will the event take place?
Consider meaningful locations and be mindful of travel or scheduling needs for family and friends.
Who will lead the event?
Decide if it will be a clergy member, celebrant, funeral director, close friend, or family member.
Who will speak?
Identify those who may want to share memories, stories, or reflections. Invite family and friends who had a close connection to the deceased.
What activities will be included?
Incorporate meaningful traditions, hobbies, or group activities that reflect your loved one’s life and bring guests together.
What food or beverages will be served?
Choose a menu based on favorites of your loved one, or consider a themed meal or potluck style gathering.
What music or readings should be included?
Select meaningful songs, scripture passages, poetry, or literature that reflects the spirit of your loved one.
What stories or details will be shared?
Focus on anecdotes that capture your loved one’s personality and spirit rather than listing every biographical detail.
What decorations will be used?
Decide if you’d like a tribute video, a memory table, photographs, or personal items on display to honor your loved one.
